A writer once told me that in order for my stories to be understood, I have to tell them. I never really got what he said. So, like any aspiring writer, I asked what that meant. He simply said - write the truth and do not be afraid.
Seven years ago, I have had this major crush from college – Mike. He is almost three years older than I but he acts like his wounds from circumcision just healed. He is utterly juvenile, pretentious and undenyingly good-looking. He reminds me of Ryan Philippe in Cruel Intentions where the character Sebastian is a dick-wad and dangerous. Make that character gay who wears Supra and nylon jacket and he can pass as Mike.
Mike, back in the day, asked me out. I would not know how act though in that “date.” Would I be his date, his friend or his classmate? But it was definitely something like he was interested. He would always ask my flatmates of my whereabouts, if I were in my apartment or if I would be doing something that night. In one occasion, he held my hand while entering a bar but the biggest confirmation came in the form a knowing stare from his friends. Yes, whomever Mike liked was tagged as a target. An imaginary paper would be on your forehead saying: private property of Mike. The attention overwhelmed/ scared me. I turned him off instantly. That was the end of Chapter 1.
Now, it is different. I can compete with him. Thanks to the endless hours of watching gay porn and Queer As Folk, reading Outrage magazine, DowneLink and other Gay 101 online communities ad infinitum. I am equipped, informed and updated whatever there is to know about gay culture. My body parts have developed. I have gained weight and pimples have minimized. I can proudly say I am a looker now.
Meanwhile, he has aged. It is also surprising to know that at closer inspection how effeminate he is and how low his self-esteem is. This cuts the disparity in half. It is only a matter of time before I catch up with him. And maybe that time is NOW.
We have been platonic for almost two years but a couple of months ago things have led me to feeling borderline love for him. Since I am already confident with my career, my overall disposition, and myself, I believe I can take him down. There is one problem, however.
Most of the time we communicate online. And online he turns way up on. In person, he bores me. He does not interest me one bit. My friends suggest that I confront my feelings pronto. They worry about me. They have been in and out of several relationships while I sit in a corner listening to the details of their vicarious experiences about life sandwiched by love and sex. This is the reason why they want me to profess my feelings for him.
In my mind, why spoil something good? If this is working for me now, I do not have to worsen it by saying I like you. Reality destroys fantasy and they are not usually attractive.
Then again, the adage reminds you – it’s now or never crawls at the back of my thought. I can be man enough to confront it for whatever it is or leave it as it is. I want to be a man.
That said, I went out with him on Friday night. He asked me to meet up with him for a few drinks and some. Though he was sick, he wanted to party his flu away and show me the ropes on how to snag a mate. At seven in the evening sharp, I was at the house of one of my closest friends to have dinner, sleep over and prepare for the main event. By 8:30, he informed that he would take a nap. I said the same after a couple of beers. I had set the alarm at 10:30 and shut my eyes.
A few twists and turns later, I was wondering why I couldn’t sleep. I reached for my phone and searched for the time. IT WAS FUCKING 1:30AM ALREADY! I panicked. My friend just watched wondering what I would do. I sat down for a while and laughed. By then, he texted me already if I were still decent. I said, I missed my alarm but I could still go. I hopped into the shower. Put on clothes and make up. He was texting all along asking me if I was on my way and that he had been waiting for me.
Good thing I slept. My sleepyhead made me numb of my nervous excitement. I was calm. When I got there, a muscular guy, Eric, greeted and wanted to get my number. I said I was with someone. Then, Mike came to fetch me. He held my hand and we went inside. He introduced me to his friends. One of them, I already met - Lucas. Most of them were in their early thirties and I found them funny but for Mike he was just plain. Well, next to them he is.
One of his friends, Lucas, made fun of me by introducing me to a waiter, which I failed to recognize since I was still sleepy. I was mortified but it did not matter because I would need something to crack up Mike. We all had a good laugh. Then, silence. I noticed that everybody went back to his or her business. They had this game face on and that hungry look. Almost like a sex pang.
Minutes later, Mike fancied someone. His prey was unresponsive to him. Little did he know,his prey was looking at me! HA! I kept my mouth shut. I already knew in my heart, he would not score with that guy at least for that night.
So as we cruise through the crowd where he introduced me one by one, I found out that most of these are friends by association or by someone they fucked; very superficial basis in my opinion. But after every introduction, we would be left alone. One of his friends begrudgingly even said to Mike, “buti ka pa may date.” To which he replied, “sira! Hindi ito date.” I just laughed. Then, after that joke, we were back at each other’s attention again. Silently sipping our beers praying they were bottomless and smoking profusely. I tried to inject silly stories, which he responded to half-heartedly.
How can a guy so dynamic in chat, text and even phone calls lose such spark in person?
I remembered myself saying, “I’m bored” a lot of times. Things just got exciting when I noticed the scars on this left arm. He said he used to cut himself. Of course, I did not believe at first but it could be true. He showed me the cut he made on his chest. My hands went inside his shirt to feel the scar (and to feel his body) but I did not feel anything. I did not get horny or anything close to even thinking about it.
Then, I had a thought. Could it be Mike has a dual personality? Online, Mike was very engaging but there he was standing right beside me – shallow, uninteresting and damn awful quiet. I could not find that connection between the online Mike and offline Mike.
And at 4 A.M., I called off the search party. We had breakfast, which was composed of laughing at his friends, a pack of cigarettes, BLT sandwich and tapsilog. His friends who thought we went there as a date, let us go home first. While inside the cab, I laced our silence with a lot silly storie. Again, he responded half-heartedly. There would be no way for me to experience the dissolution of his character-disparity.
By the time he reached his place, I remembered the faces of my staunch supporters who rallied, prayed and stood behind me. I still feel lost with the offline Mike. But then again, I was never the performer who would let his audience down.
As soon as he gestured getting out of the cab and dropping fifty bucks into my hat, I said, “pa-kiss nga.” He leaned over and I kissed him a pore away from the tip of the right side of his lips. Yep! I still felt lost and platonic toward the offline Mike.
All the built-up emotions, expectations and seven years beget nothing. And instead of reaching a conclusion, I ended up having more questions. Such as have I outgrown him? Have I painted a different picture of him in my mind and I have fallen for the guy – the online Mike? Do I have to make bigger, grander moves to find out?
I really do not know. But this I will tell, I am proud to say that I tried to figure it out. I am not going to drop online or offline Mike right away but for now, I will keep on looking.
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